Each year, as winter approaches and the cold starts to
settle in, I can’t help but reflect. Perhaps
persuade by the impending months of cold isolation, or maybe for reasons all my
own, my thought often turn to sadness; the people I’ve lost and people the world
has lost. I try to take comfort in the joyful memories these people brought to
those who knew them.
Death, of course, is the ultimate ‘loss’ of which I speak. I
can’t begin to explain the pain and emptiness in the heart. I can only hope that no one
else knows this same feeling, but the truth is that we will all lose someone. No
longer being able to hug or kiss or talk to that special person ever again; it’s
devastating. Although the pain may fade over time, the emptiness left behind,
will never really go away. They will
live on every time we are reminded… an uncle, spouse, friend, child, beloved
pet…
There are other losses, too.
There are the people who have touched our lives in some
other way; the singers, actors, celebrity, sports figures and other ‘famous’
folks. Though we may have never met them in person, we feel a connection to
them through their work. They shared a little bit of themselves with so many. The
joys they brought to the world may live on, but the loss of these talented
people touch all who enjoyed their contributions.
But death isn’t the only loss.
I look back at the friends and colleagues with whom I’ve
lost touch. Don’t get me wrong, there are some that I’m happy to have out of my
life, but not all, not by a long shot. I
often wonder how they’re doing, how their family is doing, if they are still
with the same person with whom they were so much in love. I hope they're doing well
and living a good life and I wish them all the best. The loss I feel for these
folks is more subtle, but still real.
The sense of loss, it seems, can exist for not just people. Whenever
I am reminded of a fond memory of a simpler time from my childhood or even from
a few years ago; when I see the change of a familiar landmark into a sparkling
new shopping center. The loss of the things that have always been there, but
are no longer. The unrelenting rumble of change, to modernize, update and revise
can be very unsettling, and often leave a void and longing for times gone by. Change,
though not always, can be good, but is usually unsettling.
The things we’ve done, the places we’ve been and the people
we knew from yesteryear, will live on in pictures and notes and memories.
The
future is as bright as we want it to be, as we want to make it.
Right now, the things we do and say, the people in our lives
today; it’s up to us to make the most of it. Tell that person you love them. Shave
a smile with a passer-by. Greet each new day and place and event with joy in
your heart and kindness in your eyes. The lives we touch and the emotions we
generate and share make for a much more rewarding here-and-now and will only
enrich the memories we will look back on from tomorrow.
To all in my life; thank you for all that you are to me; near
and far, friends and family. Thanks for the memories, the happiness and the
prospect of many more wonderful adventures together.
Love and peace to each and every one of you.
Cheers.
...do the best you can, make the best of each moment, and make it count:
...do the best you can, make the best of each moment, and make it count: